“Wooh, it’s one month away and i haven’t fully prepared for the wedding. I might go crazy!” My cousin said to me. This got me thinking that most of the people getting married, are actually preparing for the wedding and not the marriage itself. Not knowing that marriage is the most important element an individual needs to prepare more than the wedding. The wedding is a two or three day event and that is all.What makes the wedding to be fruitful, is how to live with the spouse.
The question is; would the 10 minutes advice given to the groom suffice for his entire life with the bride? If they aren’t prepared to live with each other with goodness and compassion, how would they coexist with each other through the journey? Many of the recently married individuals complain about their spouses, the way they treat them and talk to them. The problem is that most people go into marriage with many unrealistic expectations. You can’t expect your spouse to be perfect or behave the same way as you do because we all come from different backgrounds and have different personalities.
When we do good to others including our spouses for the sake of Allah, it gives us more love and patience to deal with one another.
The good thing in doing everything for the sake of Allah, it gives you more strength to deal with whichever situations that may arise in a marriage. You will know deeply that Allah is the one who will appreciate and reward you on the Day Of Judgement for all your compromises and patience towards each other.
My beloved ones who are preparing to get married, know that the matter is significant. Living with one person for many years needs sabr, perseverance and forgiveness. To be on the safe side, you should focus on yourself first before getting into the married life. We always want the other spouse to be perfect and have good conduct but the question is, are you good enough? Do you have the same qualities that you want from the other spouse?
Lastly but not least, the fundamental principle to a successful marriage life is sincere Dua to Allah that He grants you and your spouse a happy and a peaceful life. Dua is a weapon that many do not make good use of it. Dua can transform the person who thought he could not get married because he is poor, to a person who was able and did everything by the will of Allah and manage to conduct a simple marriage and live a happy life. Dua is the key and from today make use of it.
